Our passion for creating THE FOUND brought us together with the hope that we not only learn how to become better communicators but inspire a movement of phone disconnection and human face-to-face connection that improves the overall health in our communities, schools and businesses.
Rose Planer, MSW, LCSW | PaRTNER
Rose has an undergraduate degree in Journalism and Mass Communication from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She has a master's degree in Social Work from Winthrop University and is a licensed, clinical therapist currently in private practice. Rose is deeply connected to the Jamie Kimble Foundation for Courage, an organization dedicated to raising awareness about domestic violence. Jamie Kimble, Rose's dear friend, was killed by an ex-boyfriend five years ago.
I believe communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. I could not save my friend, Jamie Kimble, from a psychologically abusive relationship which ended in her death in 2012. However, Jamie and I stayed connected. We met regularly in person and carved out time to talk on the phone as often as possible. Humans are no longer "connected" or know how to establish a face-to-face connection. I walk into restaurants, parks, and businesses and see people glued to their devices. We are not looking up and seeing the world...we instead prefer an artificial reality. I turn on the radio daily and hear experts describing the epidemic of human loneliness. How will we ever eradicate societal problems, such as domestic violence, if we are not seeing or connecting to other humans? The Found is an organization dedicated to empowering people to disconnect from their devices and make meaningful, face-to-face connections. This change will not happen unless we want our society to change. If we don't want our children growing up addicted to devices, we have to model the importance of human connections. Our team has created an action plan that can be tailored for community engagement, schools and businesses. Jamie Kimble is a part of this organization and will forever inspire me to stay connected to the people in my life. If you have checked social media more than three times in one day, turn it off and call a friend.
Jamie L. Jolly, PharmD | PARTNER, COMMUNITY DEVELOPMENT
In 2000, Jamie graduated from the University of Oklahoma School of Pharmacy and immediately pursued a residency in Ambulatory Care at the Ralph H Johnson VA Medical Center in Charleston, SC. She then spent the next five years in academia and was one of the founding faculty members of the Wingate University School of Pharmacy. Over the past thirteen years she’s worked in the pharmaceutical industry and currently is a National Director for a medical team.
I’m a retired people pleaser.
In 2010 my world went through a twister and I felt like Dorothy when she landed in Oz. When I look back, there were so many signs that this was inevitable but I continued to put a smile on my face, fix my hair and work harder so no one noticed. My career was moving forward. I had supportive girlfriends, traveled with my family and if asked how I was doing, automatically replied, “I’m GREAT."
Obviously, I wasn’t great. In fact, I was scared to tell people just how bad I really was doing for fear of judgement: Why would you stay in a challenging marriage? How could you do this to your son? You live on the lake, what problems could you possibly have? I didn’t feel dishonest, rather I believed that people wouldn’t have a solution, so why talk about my feelings and make everyone else feel bad? Everyone's feelings were more important than mine and I never wanted to burden them with my feelings. In fact, I should have been awarded an Olympic Gold Medal in Avoidance because I was just that good at eluding the truth and telling someone how I really felt.
I’m proud to say that I’ve spent the last eight years curing myself of this debilitating disease and, YES, it's a disease! This destructive disease will devour feelings of self-worth, confidence, courage and dreams. Your mind will convince you that the only possible answer is judgement, criticism and failure. Once I started turning off my mind and speaking from my heart--life went from black/white to color!
Did I lose friends throughout this eight-year journey? Of course. In fact, some didn’t stick around long enough for the ink to dry on my divorce papers.
Did I have guilt over breaking up my son’s family home? Guilt seems like such a weak word compared to the horrible things I said to myself in my own head. Have you tried telling a five-year-old child that he needs to split time with Mommy and Daddy? I will never in my life be able to erase that memory from my brain.
What I gained was freedom. Freedom from my own judgement and freedom to be authentic. After 34 years, I was finally able to be Jamie. The Jamie that was loving, compassionate and powerful. It’s also the same Jamie that at times is a klutz, loves to plan, laughs at her own jokes, and stands tall (literally). I surround myself with authentic and fun loving people. Individuals who love my son, as if he’s their own flesh and blood. Girlfriends who check-in and make sure that I’m really doing okay and tell me if I’ve hurt their feelings.
For me, The Found is about every human creating a space in his/her life to find themselves. Allowing for connection without judgement. Creating friendships with healthy boundaries. It’s okay if you don’t know how to do this. The Found can help you. I invite you to drop the mask and fear of judgement to step into one of our Round Table discussions. I’ll be looking for you and together we can help support each other.